When we ask [men] if they would like to be treated like the women in porn, they say ‘of course not, but that does not mean that those girls don’t, just because YOU wouldn’t like these things to be done to your body doesn’t mean that THEY do not like it’. Because ‘those girls’ are so different then us, than regular human beings…

The fact is that women have been brainwashed to think that enduring pain is an integral part of their duty of performing femininity. Women harm their feet to walk in high heels. Women voluntarily submit themselves to painful surgeries to have bigger breasts. They go through painful waxing procedures. Women are good women when they overcome their pain with a smile.

And now, thanks to porn, girls are seeking advice on the internet about how to give deepthroated blowjobs without puking and how to make anal sex less painful. Men are never expected to do such things.

comment by MissFit on Porn Part 11: The Difference Between Huffing Dong and Flipping Burgers 

"men in porn are paid to orgasm, while women are paid to suffer"

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roborenard:

absolutely destroy the idea that you have to be loved romantically and love romantically

destroy the idea that the end goal of life is to get into a romantic relationship/marriage

romantic love isn’t a requirement to live life and it never will be

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makingofamelody:

micdotcom:

Watch: These kids from Ferguson have an important message for all white people

Sometimes it takes the voices of children to speak truth to power, especially when it comes to the evils of racism.

Without question, the widespread police brutality and abuse, both in Ferguson, Mo., and around the country, has elevated the consciousness of young people across America. But many others still are laboring on the illusion that we are living in a post-racial nation following the election of President Barack Obama.

These kids send the perfect wake up call | Follow micdotcom 

#staywoke

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Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.

Mary Pipher, Reviving Ophelia (via erkings)

Fun fact: Canada launched the “Don’t Be That Guy” rape prevention campaign targeted at potential rapists rather than potential victims was launched… and the number of reported sexual assaults fell by 10 per cent. within that year.  Rape prevention NEEDS to start with education and focus on the perpetrators, not just policing the behavior of potential victims.

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espritfollet:

numinous-queer:

officialmcmahon:

fuckyeahethnicwomen:

espritfollet:

This is a map of Asia. North Americans, you may notice this map is not solely comprised of Japan, Korea, China and Thailand. People in the UK, you may notice India is not  a continent. That is, if those of you who generalize entire continents can even pinpoint India on a map. Indians are Asian, gasp! And not all brown skinned people are Indian, also, gasp! There are an alarming amount of people, of all ages, from all backgrounds, who seem to be unable to process this.
I’m ethnically Asian. Since Asia is an extremely large continent, I could be from any number of countries. I am neither from India, China, Korea, Japan or Pakistan, yet not so surprisingly, I am still Asian. 
Yes, there are commonalities across regions, through the conflation of cultures, colonialism, globalization, transnationalism and movement of diasporas. Sometimes these are all the same thing. Rickshaws, rice and curry can be found across the continent. But let’s not overgeneralize. You can also find Buddhists, Catholics, Muslims and Hindus across Asia. Cantonese Speaking Chinese Muslims! English Speaking Indian Jews! 
No, we are not all the same. Orientalism? (Please look up Edward Said for basic concepts) No thank you. 
Geography, people. It’s important. 

This pops up on my dash every so often. I reblog it again, not just because I wrote it, but because nothing has changed since I first posted this.

What’s cool about Iran is that it falls in 3 different regions of Asia so depending on what part of Iran you’re in, you can kind of get culture shocked a bit. The central and western part of the country is West Asia, the north east is Central Asia, and the southeast is in South Asia. 


To the folks wondering about Russia being included, I want to mention that the cultural debates and angst about that has been going on for CENTURIES. While France has been pretty fetishized all the way back from Peter the Great, there is no question that we are not Europe, even with that influence showing really obviously in historical seats of power like St. Petersburg. Nonetheless, the whole country was under control of the Mongols (The Golden Horde) from roughly 1242 to 1480, and that left an enormous Mongolian and Tatar heritage that remains to this day. The ancient Scythians are huge in the cultural imagination as well. And besides… look at the Russians who are outside the standard “Kievan Rus” phenotype (which most folks assume is how all Russians look.) 
Here are three of the 30 distinct ethnic groups in Siberia alone:

Buryat grandfather, photo by Alexander Newby

Evenk children, photo by Evgenia Arbugaeva

Young Yakut couple, photographer unknown

boom

espritfollet:

numinous-queer:

officialmcmahon:

fuckyeahethnicwomen:

espritfollet:

This is a map of Asia. North Americans, you may notice this map is not solely comprised of Japan, Korea, China and Thailand. People in the UK, you may notice India is not  a continent. That is, if those of you who generalize entire continents can even pinpoint India on a map. Indians are Asian, gasp! And not all brown skinned people are Indian, also, gasp! There are an alarming amount of people, of all ages, from all backgrounds, who seem to be unable to process this.

I’m ethnically Asian. Since Asia is an extremely large continent, I could be from any number of countries. I am neither from India, China, Korea, Japan or Pakistan, yet not so surprisingly, I am still Asian. 

Yes, there are commonalities across regions, through the conflation of cultures, colonialism, globalization, transnationalism and movement of diasporas. Sometimes these are all the same thing. Rickshaws, rice and curry can be found across the continent. But let’s not overgeneralize. You can also find Buddhists, Catholics, Muslims and Hindus across Asia. Cantonese Speaking Chinese Muslims! English Speaking Indian Jews! 

No, we are not all the same. Orientalism? (Please look up Edward Said for basic concepts) No thank you. 

Geography, people. It’s important. 

This pops up on my dash every so often. I reblog it again, not just because I wrote it, but because nothing has changed since I first posted this.

What’s cool about Iran is that it falls in 3 different regions of Asia so depending on what part of Iran you’re in, you can kind of get culture shocked a bit. The central and western part of the country is West Asia, the north east is Central Asia, and the southeast is in South Asia. 

image

To the folks wondering about Russia being included, I want to mention that the cultural debates and angst about that has been going on for CENTURIES. While France has been pretty fetishized all the way back from Peter the Great, there is no question that we are not Europe, even with that influence showing really obviously in historical seats of power like St. Petersburg. Nonetheless, the whole country was under control of the Mongols (The Golden Horde) from roughly 1242 to 1480, and that left an enormous Mongolian and Tatar heritage that remains to this day. The ancient Scythians are huge in the cultural imagination as well. And besides… look at the Russians who are outside the standard “Kievan Rus” phenotype (which most folks assume is how all Russians look.) 

Here are three of the 30 distinct ethnic groups in Siberia alone:

image

Buryat grandfather, photo by Alexander Newby

image

Evenk children, photo by Evgenia Arbugaeva

image

Young Yakut couple, photographer unknown

boom

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kiarasnaps:

Laverne: Nicole, does your belief system now change, in which you now know you don’t need him to be there? 
Nicole: No. I think what happens is it turns into less a conversation about my blackness and more about relating to humanity, because that’s really what we’re trying to do. We’re just realizing that people are capable of doing it. We’re underestimating people because people said we weren’t viable. 
[x]

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theadultlife:

youresobittericantasteit:

midnightdarknesstaylor:

neferbadmon:

blkdzn:

nappy-sol:

reverseracist:

let’s review the ratings *filters the white reviews*

This is why it’s important we flood the theaters when this goes into theaters.

http://www.dearwhitepeoplemovie.com

!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But if a white person did dear black people it would be wrong

…yes, yes it would…
what do white people have to say to black people that we don’t tell them every day already with our actions, judgments, racial stereotypes, laws, and police force?
white people don’t have anything to say to black people because we already have a say in everything they do and have done for the last few hundred years. one movie where black people have the spotlight over white people, calling out blatant and subtle racism in our society, isn’t going to kill us.
get the fuck over your white superiority complex. you don’t stand to lose anything, but black people stand to gain everything.

They’re scared of what’s in ur last line. Well said.

theadultlife:

youresobittericantasteit:

midnightdarknesstaylor:

neferbadmon:

blkdzn:

nappy-sol:

reverseracist:

let’s review the ratings *filters the white reviews*

This is why it’s important we flood the theaters when this goes into theaters.

http://www.dearwhitepeoplemovie.com

!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But if a white person did dear black people it would be wrong

…yes, yes it would…

what do white people have to say to black people that we don’t tell them every day already with our actions, judgments, racial stereotypes, laws, and police force?

white people don’t have anything to say to black people because we already have a say in everything they do and have done for the last few hundred years. one movie where black people have the spotlight over white people, calling out blatant and subtle racism in our society, isn’t going to kill us.

get the fuck over your white superiority complex. you don’t stand to lose anything, but black people stand to gain everything.

They’re scared of what’s in ur last line. Well said.

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When you’re at the pool lounging on a beach chair and some little kids are running and the lifeguard screams out “no running” do you respond “excuse, not all of us are running”? No, you don’t. The lifeguard didn’t have to specifically state who they were talking to because you’re intelligent enough to comprehend that the comment wasn’t being directed at you.

Found a quote that shuts down that “not all men” argument pretty well. (via mykicks)

AHaha. haaaa. hh.

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nikolaecuza:

danosaurs-and-philions:

im a bad person who thinks bad thoughts like ‘ew what is that girl wearing’ and then remember that im supposed to be positive about all things and then think ‘no she can wear what she wants, fuck what other people say damn girl u look fabulous’ and im just a teeny bit hypocritical tbh

I was always taught by my mother, That the first thought that goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think. What you think next defines who you are.

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